I admit it’s so difficult when you find someone or catch someone in a lie. So, give me an example of something where I can’t lie. Basically, I had emailed someone else regarding something, and another person came and was talking to me about it. So basically, they had heard about what happened through the other person and did not have all the facts. When the person decided to call and talk to me about it, they decided to say that I burned bridges, that I ruined my reputation, that I had affected the individual with my words, and specifically, the part that really struck me was when they said I had burned bridges. Then the way my message was taken was so much worse than the way I was probably trying to portray it. So I was like, “Okay, my thought process was this,” and something that I have posted about on social media, as you’ve seen, is, “Okay, at first, I was glad the person spoke to me, and I was like, ‘Thank you for letting me know how to improve and be better,’ and I explained my side of the story. The person said, ‘Yeah, that makes sense,’ but they still seemed very sad with the other person. So I was like, ‘Okay, got that,’ but the biggest part was when I went to apologize. I said, ‘I apologize for any pain and hurt and offense I caused, for someone to suffer, to feel small, to be short with someone, to be rude, disrespectful.’ After my apology, the person goes, ‘Oh no, I don’t think that person feels that way. I don’t think they feel that way. No, no, no, they don’t feel that way at all.’ And so that’s when I realized the person lied because why if you just said I burned bridges, said exaggerated and used these big words like how I ruined things, I apologized to the max, and then you’re like, ‘No, that’s not how the person felt,’ then what is the truth? And told me that this person just wanted the other person involved in something that they shouldn’t have been involved in and that they had lied. Now, I have chosen not to make a bigger deal out of it, but that one needs to know. That is one of the many times I have caught people lying about me and making up something that was not the truth. Now, of course, it caused me to have an ardor defense against this person because I was like, ‘Why would you do that?’ And how they did not realize that they did wrong. Another example of something that has affected me was as an adult in my early 20s, people who knew me and my family, and I was fairly severely depressed and anxious, which I wrote about in my blog in my early 20s when I was in college. And these people that knew me would talk to me, I would tell them maybe a little bit of what was going on, pretend that they were my friend, nice, and then go to my parents, were super disrespectful and talk bad about me, and basically would treat me okay, not treating me like I was literally like an 11-year-old girl. That is disrespectful and disrespectful for anyone involved and let me know, both family and both other person. So obviously, I was lied to about that. To someone lying to me, and that causes broken trust. Another example of broken trust was when someone would only talk to my parents or hearsay from someone else talking to my parents about me, and then would have the nerve to talk to other people and say, ‘Oh, this is the truth about you, blah, blah, blah, blah, knew this and that.’ And I would really be like, ‘Wow, I didn’t even know I did that. I didn’t know that I went through that, why I didn’t know that I did that in school.’ But I didn’t even know that that happened because the person never directly spoke to me, never knew anything about me, especially that I’m grown at all, and I’m getting close to 30, and that could still happen. I think the point I’m trying to bring out with these different examples is lying and not telling the truth can come in different forms. And yes, again, sometimes we do need to be corrected. We do need to be told when we’ve done wrong, and there’s nothing wrong with acknowledging it and apologizing to do the right thing. But I think that if you have to constantly be told that you’re doing something wrong, that’s not right. You should have more of a compass and just say, ‘Maybe after it made you feel bad, made you feel wrong, made you feel something, this is yours.’ And people had time to apologize to me. Let me tell you something, over the years, I’ve learned to block and cut off people for avoidance, but because I’m actually trying to protect my own self and realize that people’s lies and untruths are not okay and cannot be okay. At the end of the day, I have peace because I apologized, I did the right thing, and I didn’t bring it up again. And I think that’s what gives me peace and move on. But I think if someone’s gonna be a liar, I’ll be fine with it. You better be okay with it.
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