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How Regret turned into Responsibility

Most of my life, I have felt a responsibility to be a good person and an example to others. Most of the responsibilities I have in myself I feel as though they are self-inflected. One of the traits that I am trying to change about myself is people pleasing. I allowed people in my life to put a responsibility on me to be a leader to other kids. In doing this it took away from my own child hood.

Regret and disappointment in myself come to my heart and mind as I write these words. Responsibility can be either something that you put on yourself or others put on you. Maybe even different life situations cause someone to take upon responsibility in life. In for recent events in my life, I have taken upon the responsibility of being a blogger. Now, blogging is something in my life that I have done in my past.

When I was in high school, I started blogging for my journalism class/club. I enjoyed it so much that after I was done with the class I kept on blogging. When I entered college, my life was so consumed with college and the job I was working at the time, that I completely neglected my first blog. I lost my passion for writing and even reading. I became someone constantly worried about grades and people pleasing.

Eventually this mentally drained me. I started to not want to do my job, homework, and even hangout with friends. I was mentally exhausted. It’s good to know when to take a break and take responsibility for what I was doing to myself. I was neglecting self-care. I decided to take a semester off of college, change my degree program and I quit my job. I started to feel better about life. I mentally started taking mental health breaks. I started reading again, working out and eventually I started blogging.

When I started blogging again, I did not want to be like everyone else around me in the blogging community. I wanted to make my blog unique to me. Responsibility came over me to write about what I have been through in my life and share my story and encourage others. I came up with the idea of quotes or thoughts of the week. Every week, I write a short sentence or two about something I have been through and I write it in an encouraging way. Since doing this on my blog I have heard from multiple people who write to me thoughtful comments, direct messages, and email me letting me know how encouraged they have felt and how they look forward to my quotes or thoughts of the week.

With my quote or thought of the week blog series, I have asked others to share their favorite quote or thought of the week. I have had many bloggers share quotes that have encouraged them and inspired them to write thoughts of things that they have been through. Now I have a community of people who are inspired and who now inspire others. I took my regret and hurt and turned it into something that might encourage others. Responsibility has followed me throughout my life and I believe that it still will. I believe that with responsibility comes strength. It is a strength to know how to handle what you might be going through in life and how to handle it.

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  1. Thanks for sharing! I could relate to being a people pleaser and not wanting to have any regrets and disappointments, and how it’s a responsibility.

  2. Great post and I enjoy your quotes on Instagram! My favorite book is The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin. It really gave me insight on how people think and why they might do things differently than I would.

  3. I can totally relate! Been though a similar situation but what I’ve learned throughout time and constant self-reflection is the importance of being able to let go and accept that you don’t have to take charge of it all. I allowed myself, gave myself permission to have more freedom to prioritize my own needs without feeling the guilt.

  4. I loved reading this. Fortunately, I have never been a people pleaser. I always put me first no matter what because I and my happiness is priority for me. And should come before any other thing. If doing something for someone will put me in a sad state, I won’t do it. I enjoy your quotes by the way!

  5. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! I admire your strength how you turned your pain into something that is being helpful to so many other people. You are truly an inspiration! x

  6. I totally relate! Sometimes I want to get my blog posts so factually correct that I forget to add in my personality – it’s something I’m currently working on.

  7. This is so good. I can definitely relate to being a people pleaser too. I tend to be that way sometimes as well. Thanks so much for sharing this post.

  8. This is a good read, a change of atmophere for me.
    I can relate to it. I’m not a people pleaser actually, but a change in life happened.
    I moved to Korea, where everything is different – people and culture wise.
    And it changed me, I became one. My responsibility made me to be a people pleaser because that’s how it works here.

  9. Your posts are always interesting and real, as they are your inner thoughts. And quotes are motivating; as is it is a reading suggestion. Speaking of which, my favourite books are history, in general, even historical fiction. One I enjoyed a lot was Blood Symbols by Izak Botha.

  10. I can really relate to this post, thank you so much for sharing! I relate because I used to be a people pleaser but I’m learning as I get older to not be! Great post, Alicia

  11. I am definitely a people pleaser as well. I am starting to finally learn that what other people think doesn’t matter as much as I thought it did. What’s important is what I enjoy and what makes me feel good, not others. Great post.

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