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Its Okay to Leave

If someone or something is not giving you peace, its okay to leave.

A couple of years ago, I was working at a customer service job at a local museum. They were having a Halloween party. I was scheduled to work that day. It was a short 4 hour shift and was considered extra pay. At first, I was happy to have the extra pay, but something just didn’t feel right. You know that feeling you get when you know your not supposed to go somewhere or do something. Now, during this time, I had the job for almost a year and had never taken a day off or missed work. I was still patiently waiting for my three month review that was truly overdue. In the end I decided to take the shift. When I arrived at work, it was not good. Everything was a mess, everyone just didn’t know what to do. It was like they just didn’t know management. There was one main manager in my section and three full times, the rest of us were just part-timer and volunteers. The three full timers felt like they were managers and the manager was just trying to do well with making sure all the costumers were happy. It was not good. To say the least, all three of the full timers were rude, mean, unkind, unprofessional, and just plain nasty towards us part timers. That same night one of the full timers spoke to me like I was a child because at the time I was in my early twenties and the rest of the part timers were like 18 year old’s. I left that night having costumers yelling at mean, being rude to me, not having backup from co-workers and the museum security team was a joke to say the least. Basically, this night really affected me. I was liking the job and had miner complaints but this moment caused me to just feel like leaving the job. Instead I stayed, and the unprofessionalism and not kindness towards me from full timers just kept continuing. I remembering be told by another part timer that she went out for drinks with the full timers and they were speaking not kind of me and that they were saying, I needed to just get over how they treated me. They saw me like a child. The full timers were not even that much older then me. I remember just feeling sad and just crying. In the end, a couple of months later, I was in a car crash and had the leave the job due to me being unable to stand and lift heavy things. In my time since leaving the job, I realized I should have left sooner and not allowed the unprofessionalism and not kindness towards me. I felt like I had to recover from just being in a job of customer service and the unprofessionalism and not kindness towards me from the full timers. I forgive them and I have healed from the experience. I believe that if something is just not giving you peace, not making you happy, and just making you lose your confident, you should leave. Don’t let someone treat you not nice just because you are young. In the end its okay to leave.

What is a situation that you felt like its okay to leave? What advise would you give your younger self?

NOTE: This story is not meant to talk bad about anyone or any place.

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Comments

  1. I’m so sorry you had to go through that at work!
    I totally agree that if something is just not making you happy or making you lose your confidence then maybe it’s just not for you. Life is so short and we have to remember to put ourselves first!

  2. So sorry about what you went through. Sometimes setting boundaries with others can be hard, and as a result we end up staying in situations which drain our entire soul. Learning how to leave situations that that drains you is so important for our mental health.

  3. I’m so sorry that happened to you! Work experiences like that are hard to get over, at least for me. But it’s so important you decided to put yourself first!

  4. I am so sorry this happened to you at work, sometimes you understand later just how negative the place might be, but I am glad that you left, thank you for sharing x

  5. Being in an uncomfortable situation for an extended period of time also damages your health. Glad you got out of it! So happy that you learned and got a message from it too.

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